Recommended links and current reading and listening material: November 29th edition

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Interesting Links:

The Power of Empathetic Thought (Goop.com)

“On a more personal level, I think we need to move beyond the emotionally illiterate world of online “like” buttons. If you see, via Facebook or other platforms, that a friend has done something interesting or has gone through something tough, like a family death, don’t just “like” their post or write a one-line comment. Phone them or Skype them and have a real human interaction.”

On personality, emotional labor, and surviving the holidays (Modern Mrs. Darcy)

In the podcast, Cain explains that introverts can be extremely, genuinely social—even for long periods of time—and enjoy being so. But for true introverts, putting on this extroverted front over a period of days or weeks is exhausting.

This phenomenon has a name: it’s called “emotional labor,” and it’s what you experience any time you project (or, to put it not-so-nicely, fake) an emotion or attitude that doesn’t come easily.”

Brene Brown: The Anatomy of Trust (Supersoul.tv)

“Trust is built in the smallest of moments.”

A very powerful talk about cultivating self-love and self-respect in order to build trusting connections with others.

Another quote from the speech that truly struck me: “I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves but say ‘I love you.'” (Maya Angelou)

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My most recent quick knitting project, completed in about an hour yesterday, enjoying a cozy spot on the small Christmas tree decorated by Wanderlust Juniors.

Current Listening Material:

Enya – Dark Sky Island

I have been a big fan of Enya’s music since I first heard The Celts in the early 90s. Enya’s music continues to accompany me through joyful times and difficult situations. Most recently, while saying goodbye to our cat Meeshu, the veterinary clinic played The Celts album in the room where Meeshu and I shared a few final moments together. I am delighted with the new album and glad to find the music consistent with Enya’s previous material.

Enya – And Winter Came

This is a Christmas season staple for me.

Loreena McKennitt is another of my favourite musicians and this is a beautiful collection of older, traditional Christmas songs.
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Currently on My Nightstand:
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Enjoying the beautiful Christmas Market in Toronto last weekend.

Whirlwind October

I woke up this morning feeling inevitably tired and fuzzy-headed. Returning home last night after midnight following a jam-packed 30-hour business trip, I looked forward to climbing into my own bed, next to my partner. I knew we would be joined shortly, at some point in the night, by our youngest child. Perhaps, I thought, our eldest also might squeeze next to us. I was at home, next to my family. I knew I would need to finally, reluctantly crawl out of bed at some point in the morning. The cats will have already started meowing loudly in protest, as though questioning why I decided to sleep in instead of waking at my usual time for morning yoga and meditation while the rest of the house was still asleep. Not this morning. I might need to rely on coffee to nudge me along the jet lag-laden work day, but at that moment, I was exactly where I needed to be.

October has been a whirlwind month with too much activity. Through the busy pace, I have been making an effort to slow down, to move mindfully. My body and mind crave stillness. Over the next few weeks, we are creating space for stillness, clearing our schedule of unnecessary commitments. November feels like a perfectly Yin month.

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Here is a recap of the blog through the month of October:

 The Dharma Wanderlust Creative Method: Mr. Wanderlust explained in thorough detail his process of creating pieces for the Sea Turtle Collection.

The Capsule Wardrobe Experiment: Autumn 2015: Over the past month, I have been enjoying my fall capsule wardrobe.

Thanksgiving 2015: What a perfect weekend spent with my loved ones!

Flying, Part II: I befriended fear and we learned to work well together.

Simplifying and Trusting: “Slowing down requires letting go of effort.”

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Interesting articles I read recently:

The Four Stages of Desire: From Everything to One Thing. Why we should stop wanting everything and focus on what matters most.

It’s Hard to Be a Kid! Tips for Compassionate Parenting.

Recommended podcasts:

Kimberly Wilson – At Home with Madame Chic: I always look forward to Kimberly Wilson’s weekly podcasts, but when I opened my inbox on Monday to see that this week she interviewed Jennifer L. Scott, the author of At Home with Madame Chic and Lessons from Madame Chic, I was giddy with excitement. I enjoy Scott’s vlog and in this interview, she discusses tackling less-than-pleasant tasks with grace and poise. Scott’s new book, Polish Your Poise with Madame Chic came out earlier this week. I look forward to devouring it.

A fascinating interview with one of my favourite authors, Karen Maezen Miller: Karen Maezen Miller’s Momma Zen became a type of parenting manual for me in the early sleep-deprived and colicky months of motherhood. In this interview, as in the book, she delivers many poignant lessons about mindfulness in parenting. While listening to the podcast and knitting, I resisted the urge, several times, to jump up and grab my notebook and pen to jot down notes. Instead, I chose to listen and absorb naturally. One particularly simple but important message that has remained with me is this: Our children are their own individuals. We do not have the privilege to mold them to suit our needs. Instead, we are here to open our minds and hearts to learn to love unconditionally. Many parents do not love unconditionally because we cling to preconceived notions and expectations. If we allow ourselves to remain open to experience our children as they are, we can learn to accept them as they are and, in turn, learn to accept ourselves as we are. Brilliant!

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